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chances are, if you\u2019re approaching senior year, you\u2019ve had a few college-oriented conversations with your parents<\/a> that feel somewhat like the following:<\/p>\n

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and if you\u2019re sitting there thinking, \u201cnope, i can\u2019t relate to that\u201d \u2026 just wait. there is something about the application season that can turn even the most easy-going of parents into half-crazed life-gurus. to help minimize the frustration, here are several pointers in dealing with the family:<\/p>\n

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1. coordinate<\/h2>\n

there\u2019s nothing worse than, after having a fairly overwhelming day, being bombarded with an onslaught of college discussion. what about this school? have you thought about [insert adventure story here] for a college essay? you know nancy\u2019s son from down the street got this<\/em> on his sat\u2026<\/p>\n

look – there is a lot to go over when it comes to applying for college. and you\u2019re probably going to need your parents to get through certain steps along the way. for efficiency\u2019s sake, try to designate a time of the day where you both can agree to focus on college stuff (maybe that\u2019s over dinner, mondays after school, before sports practice); as soon as one person isn\u2019t fully invested in the conversation \u2013 you are going to be having that conversation again.<\/p>\n

and on that note, you may want to set some boundaries of where and when college can\u2019t be brought up. (for me, that was in the car. there\u2019s nothing worse than being trapped in a honda pilot on the freeway, forced to acknowledge your future.)<\/p>\n

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2. stick with honesty<\/h2>\n

depending on your situation, it can be really difficult to voice your unhindered opinion to your parents. but it\u2019s so unbelievably imperative that you do it anyways. this is the next four years of your life that we\u2019re talking about here. (not to mention a pretty big monetary investment.) i\u2019ve said it before via these blog posts, and i\u2019ll say it again: it is absolutely acceptable to prioritize your own happiness. whether this is in regards to attending a school or declaring a major, you\u2019re going to want your parents to understand where you\u2019re at emotionally.<\/p>\n

and, yes, this goes both ways. sometimes moms and dads try to do the right thing and hold their tongue. maybe they just give you that one \u201clook,\u201d but never actually follow it up with verbal admittance to their stark disapproval. let them be as honest with you as you want to be with them. overall, the more you and you parents mask your opinions, the less mutual trust you will be able to have moving forward in this process.<\/p>\n

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3. reach out to other adults<\/h2>\n

it\u2019s okay to get second opinions. third opinions. as many opinions as you feel you can hear without reverting back to the previously included watermelon-explosion gif. your parents are going to have periods of mass confusion, just like you. they\u2019re not always going to know what the best option is (even if they think that they do). so, if there\u2019s ever any unsettling doubt, be comfortable asking around; college apps teachers, your peers, your peers\u2019 parents, your neighbors, admissions advisors: they\u2019re all great people to turn to.<\/p>\n

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4. realize they only mean the best<\/h2>\n

however short you may get with one another, your parents really are just trying to help. relationships can get difficult when views don\u2019t align, when money gets involved, when stress run high. but when it comes down to it, everyone is striving for the same end goal. your parents are on your team. they\u2019re contributing what expertise they can to the situation (and, whether or not you believe me now, a decent amount of the time, they\u2019re right).<\/p>\n

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